Boredom is a choice and only boring people get bored – all the others look for ways to make their conversations fun and interesting. I am sure you're a very creative person and you're having great Skype conversations with your girlfriend, but if you need a few more suggestions to help you spice up your 2 hours long Skype talks then I am here to share with you some of my best ideas.
As you can imagine, in the last 7 years of being in long distance relationships, I had to deal with boring conversations a lot.
God bless Skype for being a free service and allowing us to stay connected to our partners trough voice and video chat, but sometimes 2-3 hours long Skype talks would become a real challenge, because there would be nothing to talk about. Those times the conversations would get boring, and I'd feel frustrated for not being able to maintain a fun and interesting conversation.
Now, because having great conversations is the foundation of a long distance relationship, I had to get creative and figure out ways to spice up my Skype talks (as this is my main communication channel) and make them more exciting.
As a result, I came up with a lot of ideas. Some of them crazy, some them genius, some of them more complicated while others simpler, but overall most of them very effective at generating fun and exciting conversations.
And because I want you to have enjoyable Skype talks too, I decided to share some of my best ideas here on the blog. So, I'll be writing 5 article(this one being the first) sharing with you five great ways to spice up your Skype talks and avoid the boredom trap.
The first idea of the "Boredom Is A Choice" Series is what I like to call - using hypothetical questions, or simply hypotheticals.
So, one of the best ways to spice up a conversation is using hypothetical questions. What is a hypothetical question you ask? Well, first some examples and then a definition...
- If you had a 100.000$ right now, what would you buy or do with it? Why?
- Would you rather have the power to read people’s minds or to fly? And how would you use it?
- If you had to choose one famous actor to have dinner with, who would that be? Why?
- If money weren't a problem, what would you chose to do in life?
- Which do you think is more acceptable: an older guy with a much younger girlfriend, or a young guy dating a much older woman?
- If you had to lose one of these three senses—sound, sight or touch...which one would you choose?
- If you could eat one type of food as much as you wanted without getting fat, what food would that be?
So, as you probably figured out already - hypotheticals are creative questions that put someone in an imaginary, hypothetical position where that person has to give you an answer based on the circumstances you created.
And what I found is that hypotheticals are great questions to ask my girlfriend in the middle of a Skype conversation just to change the subject and make my conversations more fun.
And after she'd answer my question she'd be very curios to find out what my answer would be, so we'd both end up answering such questions and then discussing our answers for hours.
The beauty of hypothetical questions is that they open up a lot of conversational topics. You might ask her the “100.000$ hypothetical question” and then end up talking about money, passions, shopping, traveling etc.
Another great thing about hypotheticals is that these questions help you get know each other from very unique angles.
How else would you find out about her shopping preferences, if not putting her in the situation where she has a lot of money and the possibility to buy whatever she wanted?
So, use this technique today, and let me know how it worked.In the next article: Boredom Is A Choice - Adding Sexuality, I share with you one of my favorite conversational techniques. It's something very dear to my hearth, because it has always worked wonders...read the article here.