5 Great Ideas For An Awesome Skype Date

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How have your Skype sessions been lately? Does it feel like you’re always doing or talking about the same things with your partner?

It’s a common issue for many couples in long distance relationships because we can feel limited in what we can do together due to being apart.

But let’s be honest, why should people in conventional relationships have all the fun when it comes to date nights?!

For my partner and I, a pattern started to form when we’d be on Skype. Don’t get me wrong we were still excited to see each other but something was lacking. That’s when I decided to change it up a bit and create a date night that would push us to try new things. When I’d see her smile from ear to ear I knew I was on to a winner 🙂

If you’re wanting to try something different I’ve put together a foolproof date night that you can surprise your partner with that’s guaranteed to be something they’ll never forget!

The trick is to make it ALL. ABOUT. YOUR. PARTNER. Everyone loves to be pampered and feel loved and what I’ve put together for you will do exactly that for your partner, so let’s get stuck in.

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10 Conversation Games To Make Your Talks More Fun


Right now I wanna share with you my list of 10 awesome games to play in your conversations.

Like we talked in my What Else Do I Say? book, talking on Skype or over the phone is not so much about the content of the conversation, as it’s about the connection that you guys build with each other.

Most people tend to put too much attention on the content of the conversation, when actually it’s the connection that matters the most. Your daily talks are meant to allow you to spend some quality time together, so it’s not that important what you talk about, as long as you guys talk.

And a conversation game like this will allow you to connect and have fun in the process, even if the content of the talk is not that clever.

The most important thing here is to have a playful mindset.

Seriousity is a love repellent. You don’t have to be all serious all the time.

At times being playful and even childish, no matter what you age is, can be the best thing you can do for your relationship.

Therefore, here’s the list:

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How to Not Run Out of Things to Say On Skype

Those 1-2 or even 3-4 hour daily Skype talks or phone conversations can become really predictable after a while.

Or even worse start getting shorter and shorter by every passing week, OR EVEN WORSE start turning into 1-2 hour fights and arguments, instead of fun and enjoyable conversations.

So, how do we stop this vicious cycle?

The truth is that there is no magic pill for it, but with a little effort and creativity we could be still having fun and exciting things to talk about even after 3 years of 2-3 hour daily Skype talks.

So, it’s possible, and I’m about to share with you some of my secrets of how I do it.

1. Relating

This one technique when used correctly can help you have endless conversations not just with your long distance girlfriend, but with virtually anyone.

What relating means is paying careful attention to the conversation and based on the content of the conversation – jumping to other RELATED topics.

For example your partner says: “Oh, I can’t wait for this new movie “X” to come on cinemas. I think I have watched the trailer for like 10 times already. The music is so nice and the actors are just really cool!

So, the common and most boring follow up to her statement might be “Ok, I guess the movie should be nice.

However if you were to RELATE what she said to something else, you could talk about so many related topics like: how cool it is to watch movies at the cinemas; when was the last time you went to the cinema; what movies genres does she like most; showing her some other trailers of some cool movies that you can’t wait to watch; what famous actors are playing in that movie that she told you about; what actors do you both like in general…and so on.

Every word underlined in the text above could make for a new topic you could jump to.

It could be an endless stream of conversation. And every new statement she makes can bring up a lot of other conversational topics.

As I said this technique could help you have endless conversations, and it’s something that we all use naturally when we talk to people, without even realizing it.

However when you do use it consciously, you can actually take control over the length of any conversation you have, simply by finding jump off points in other people’s statements and contributing with your own statements, stories, or questions related to what was said.

2. Dissecting

This is a technique that is very simple to use, and very helpful to keep the ball rolling. What dissecting means is listening to what she has to say, for example what she did today, and then dissecting each activity that she did today and asking clarifying questions about it.

For examples she says: I have read a book today, I have listened to some cool music, did some exercising and ate some delicious salad.

Then you can take each one separately, and start asking questions about it, for example “What book did you read? or Tell me something interesting that you read in that book!” and so on, until you exhaust the topic about reading, and then moving on to music, and then to exercising and then to the salad and so on…dissecting each activity.

Of course you’d want to do it smoothly and naturally, by simply being curious and wanting to know more details.

3. Preparing

During the day many things happen, even if it may not seem like, but when you go through the day with an eye for new things to tell your girlfriend, you’ll start noticing some interesting things, stories, funny stories and so on, that would make for great conversational topics when you girlfriends asks you “What have you done today?”.

I recommend that before calling her on Skype or on the phone, to simply put down on a piece of paper in front of you a few things you want to tell her, or talk about.

This way I promise you, you’ll never worry about what to say next, and sometimes (as it often happens to me) you’ll never even get to talk about those things that you wrote on the paper, because you’ll have so many other spontaneous topics to talk about.

But the actual writing down, and knowing that you do have a few things prepared, gives you a great relief, and helps you focus on being present (instead of thinking about what to say next), listening to what she has to say and then leading the conversations naturally.

4. Encouraging

A relationship in my view is a team game, and our conversations are part of the game too. Therefore keeping the conversation going and making it interesting is the responsibility of both partners.

If you find yourself being the only one trying to come up with new things to talk about, then it means that she’s not playing the game, and your job as a team player is to encourage her to play as well.

When I feel like my girlfriend is not contributing to the conversation, I always tell her “Baby, this conversation is missing a player.”

Sometimes though, she’s not contributing because there is something that’s bothering her, be it something about the relationship or something about her life, and then I encourage her to talk about it.

No matter why she is not contributing, it’s not healthy for the relationship to be the only one talking and investing, and therefore you must encourage her to talk as well.

Sometimes, if I see that she’s not in the mood for talking I might even suggest to end the conversation, because there’s no point in me being the only one talking, and suggesting to continue it when her talking mood gets better, and interestingly enough she instantly becomes more talkative.

5. Digging

Be more profound in your conversations, instead of just talking about the superficial topics.

The way to be more profound is by asking questions like “Why did you do that? Why do you like this? How it makes you feel?”

To give you an example, if she’s telling you about what she ate for breakfast, let’s say she ate musli with water (yes, we talk about that too) then you can ask her “Why musli?” or “Why with water and not with milk?” this way digging deeper than just the surface.

As a result you might end up talking about eating healthy, and you might discover new things about her.

6. Creating

This is an amazing skill that needs to be developed over time.

What you have to do is to come up with interesting hypothetical questions based on the conversation that is currently happening.

For example you’re talking about her walking the dog, and you could come up with a hypothetical question like:

Can you imagine what would it be to have the life of a dog? I mean, sitting all day playing, eating and being loved by your owners, sounds to me like a little piece of heaven.” or “If you could chose to be an animal, what animal would you prefer to be?” and so on.

Creating is all about playfully using your creativity during your conversations and coming up with interesting, sometimes maybe even childish hypothetical questions…Creating it’s not about being smart, it’s about being fun and entertaining.

And lastly if you’ve tried the techniques above and you still tend to run out of things to say (because you haven’t really used the techniques above correctly), here are two more ideas that might help you out.

7. Refreshing

When your life starts following the same routine every single day, no wonder that you are running out of things to talk about. That’s why I suggest that try to spice up and vary your own life, this way you’ll have new stories to tell and new topics to discuss.

Do something new  that can give you new things to talk about. It could be watching a movie together and talking about it, reading the news, reading a new book and talking about it, going to a trip somewhere, practicing a new sport, going out and meeting new people…etc.

Anything, but getting out of your daily routine, first of all to have a more interesting lifestyle, and second of all to have new things to talk about.

8. Relaxing

And lastly, the simplest yet sometimes most effective way to prevent running out of things to say is to take little break from each other.

Take some time off of each other and let some new conversational topics pile up. Every new thing you’re doing in those hours or days while you’re not talking can be a great subject to talk about.

This is it. Now you have no excuses to complain about running out of things to say.

Other articles on the same topic.

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Make Her Laugh

Add Some Sexuality In Your Talks

Doing Things Together While Talking

Doing More Than Talking

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Some techniques might repeat themselves, but don’t be shy and read them again, repeated information becomes learned information, and I bet that you might end up using only those few techniques that get repeated in these articles.

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10 Compliments That Will Melt Her Heart

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We all LOVE and MISS our partners, and telling them that is a great way to express affection, but not the ONLY way.

After a while “I love you” and “I miss you” get quite old and lose their meaning for our partner.

The good news is that you’re not limited to only these two expressions of love and affection. There’s a lot more fun and touching ways to compliment a girl and tell her much she means to you.

Therefore below I’m going to share with you 10 ways to express your affection beyond the usual “I miss you” and “I love you”. Ten compliments that will touch her heart and turn you into her prince charming.

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10 Reasons Why LDRs Suck! Or Not?

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Let’s put the finger on the pulse of long distance relationships and give a final verdict: “Do long distance relationships suck or not?

In my seven years of long distance dating I’ve felt and heard it all, and if that wasn’t enough – I’ve spend the past two years researching and compassionately working with a few hundred people who struggled with a lot of frustrating problems in their long distance relationships.

And after feeling and hearing it all, I’ve decided to make a list of 10 most common complains that people have about long distance relationships and see if I can manage to make you reconsider them and maybe even get you inspired to believe in your long distance relationship along the way!

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