Contrary to the popular belief that distance breaks hearths, I think that distance itself does actually the opposite of destroying a relationship and actually brings a couple closer.
What ruins couples in a long distance relationships most of the times is not the distance itself, but the inability of the partners to deal with usual relationship issues like arguments, too much jealousy, poor communication, routine, or simply because the attraction for one of the partners has disappeared.
Yes, distance can amplify the usual struggle and it also brings in the missing for each other, the physical longing, and the confusion about a future together and so on, and only because of these struggles, the ones that succeed to overcome them become much closer.
I believe that distance brings closer couples that actually want a relationship to work. We humans tend to value more the things that we put some effort into. And when we decide to make a long distance relationship work and we fight for it with all our hearths, it then becomes so much more valuable to us.
Another interesting factor is that we tend to want more what we can’t have right now. It’s common knowledge that we see the things that we want, but don’t have, as more valuable than they actually are. And when our partner is far away and we CAN’T have her right now, it makes us want her so much more.
And lastly, in my view, a big part of getting closer is the constant communication that we long distance lovers have. It teaches us to be open, express ourselves and solve our issues through communication.
Once, my girlfriend said to me: “It’s crazy, but I think that if we would’ve continued our relationship being here together, we would’ve probably separated long time ago!” What she meant was that we learned to communicate better while being apart.
To conclude, what I want you to remain with after reading this short article is that we must appreciate our long distance relationship, because it’s not a curse, an intermediary time we have to bear, or a pain in the ass, but a real relationship and it should be treated as such, and enjoyed.
I truly believe that distance is actually a blessing, a gift for our relationships to bring our hearths closer, and make them grow stronger, if that’s what we truly want.
That’s why I encourage you to write down below your long distance relationship story – if and even if it doesn’t support this idea. Let’s see some real evidence and make a discussion out of it.
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