The Quick Guide to Long Distance Sex

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Let’s talk about some action – having long distance sex on Skype. It may sound naughty, maybe even too perverse for some people, but truth to be said, most long distance lovers do it, and it’s an important part of a long distance relationship.

I see long distance sex as the replacement for real sex while distance separates us from our bellowed girlfriends.

The way long distance sex goes is by basically comfortably sitting in from the webcam, and each partner pleasing him/herself by masturbating, using some sex toys (if she owns any), talking dirty to each other and enjoying the view and the pleasure that each partner is having.

long distance sex and Skype sexSkype sex is essential, as it’s the only thing closest to real sex, and as long as you overcome the shyness and the silliness of the act that may arise at the beginning, and simply imagine that you are in the same room with her, long distance sex can actually give you a lot of pleasure and satisfaction.

There is nothing wrong with playing a little dirty on the webcam from time to time to get some physical needs met, as long as you trust each other and you feel comfortable with it. Moreover, having long distance sex, is a great way to keep the sexual spark alive between you two.

8 Steps To Skype Sex

I assume that you’ve already done it, and you probably know how to do it. But in case you haven’t, here a step by step guide to follow:

Step 1:  Privacy

Find a time when both of you have privacy and are not in any rush. This will help you relax and enjoy the session without any worries.

Step 2: Prelude

Just like real life sex, long distance sex requires a nice prelude to fire things up. Tell her how much you love her body, and what bad things you’d do to her if she were there with you in that moment. And be descriptive, tell her exactly where and how you’d touch her and how horny and excited you’d both feel in the process.

To take things one step further, use sexting (sending her sexy texts during the day) to get her anticipating a little sexual play later on over Skype.

Here’s an amazing technique that might be very helpful to you: Erotic Visualizations

Step 3: Progress

Take it easy, getting her undressed first, complimenting her and making her feel good about her body. Girls may be worried that they may look bad on the web cam, that’s why you want to make sure to compliment her and encourage her to relax and feel comfortable.

They key in making long distance sex happen is in taking things slowly, step-by-step, one piece of clothing at a time, and encouraging her to relax and feel comfortable in the meantime.

Step 4: Adjustments

When you feel like things are getting hot, make sure to make the last adjustments: taking off your clothes (or at least some of them) and setting up the cameras so that you can both watch each other play with yourselves. You can also add some music in the background to make the atmosphere complete.

Step 5: Sex

This is the fun part – the part where both of you play with yourselves and watch each other play. Your job here is to enjoying the process, expressing your feelings and sensations while enjoying yourself, and preferably talking a little dirty (or more) with each other.

Step 6: Climax

Women love to see a guy ejaculating, just like you would love to see your partner having an orgasm, as it makes them feel good about being able to satisfy him. So, give her the pleasure of watching you have an orgasm, and let yourself free to enjoy the orgasm when it happens – scream, shake etc. just let your body free to enjoy the pleasure. The more satisfied you’ll be the more fulfilled she’ll feel.

Step 7: Reassurance

Compliment her for being such a sexy and dirty little girl, and tell her that you can’t wait to jump her bones in real life.

Step 8: Postlude

Now that you’re both happy and relaxed, you can have a post-sex conversation. Make sure to continue the conversation for at least 10 – 15 minutes, and never end the Skype talk immediately after sex.

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Don’t take things to seriously. Long distance sex can be awkward sometimes, especially the first few times you try it, so don’t hesitate to joke about it and have a good laugh if things get to tensed up. Skype sex is supposed to be fun, and it’s up to you make if fun.

Also, don’t forget to use your creativity to make the experience more exciting. You could suggest your girlfriend to dress up in some sexy lingerie; you could use some role-playing to make things more entertaining; and why not create a nice and romantic atmosphere for the love making session by using dim light, music and candles.

I wouldn’t recommend having online sex too often though, as it would lose its appeal much easier than real life sex would. It could be done once a week or once every few weeks depending on your sexual appetites.

Related Reading: How To Get Her Naughty Online & Turn On The Sexual Play

Enjoy and Have Fun!


About Livius Besski

After knowing nothing about love and getting his heart broken over and over again, Livius has decided to figure this topic out. And for the past 10 years he has discovered the counter-intuitive way love works, has created a system for overcoming neediness (which is holding most guys back) and is now sharing all of his practical advice here on the site.


  1. shanky says:

    Hi there! I liked this blog post. I currently am in a long distance relationship. I would like to add something to this post. One can play games to add to the anticipation of getting each other turned on. My suggestion is “Truth or Strip”. You ask each other questions. They can be personal, G.K., etc. Or just some fact that you shared a few days ago and to see if he/she remembers it. You’ll have to remove one piece of clothing every time you give a wrong answer. It’s a great way to spice things up