Make Time Pass Faster

Have you seen this movie called “Click” with Adam Sander, where he gets his hands on a magic remote that could fast time forward to which ever date or event he wanted? Maaan, that would be a really handy toy in a long distance relationship!

In this article I am going to try to give you something similar to a real life “remote” that you could use to fast time forward.

“How do I make time pass faster? I wanna see my girl right now, without waiting 6 more months…!”

That’s one of the top challenges of a long distance relationship…missing your significant other to the point where you become extremely frustrated for now being close to her “right now!”

It’s this feeling that makes us buy flight tickets for hundreds of dollars and this is the feeling that makes us become needy and also this is the feeling that makes us give up sometimes.

Besides being passionate about relationships, I am passionate about psychology too, and mixing these two passions has always helped me improve my relationships.

One great thing from psychology that proved to be very helpful in my relationships,  is using “time perception” to make the time between our visits feel shorter.

These days I don’t think any more like “Omg, there’s still 3 months to wait!” but “Shiiit! There are only 3 more months before I go to visit her!”

And the secret is not just in the attitude, but also in the way we perceive time. So in this article I’ll share with you 6 ways in which you can make time “feel” like passing faster than you’d normally feel.

These suggestions come from my own experience and are not scientific facts, even though I’ve found many researches that support these ideas and claim to be “trustworthy”. Anyhow, take 5 minutes to read this article and let me know what’s your opinion about these suggestions.

Me and my girlfriend, we find them extremely powerful, and they help us “manipulate” time and feel like it passes faster.

So, you can make time pass faster by:

1. Involving yourself in time limited activities.

I am sure you’ve noticed how fast time seems to pass when you’re in the middle of a written exam and you’ve got only 30 minutes to write a lot of stuff.

Or, how fast time seems to pass when you’ve got a huge project to complete in a short time period.

Or, what do you say about setting a goal for yourself and a deadline, and a few days later realizing that the deadline is too close and you have to extend it because you can’t get the job done in time?

These are all situations where we engage ourselves in activities that require a set amount of time to be completed, and because of that, we feel constantly pressed by time, and we’re always in a hurry to get the job done.

So, in this situation we “want the time to pass slower”! because we need more of it. And in a long distance relationship we “want the time to pass faster” so that we can meet our significant other as soon as possible.

Now, that’s the perfect mixture because it makes you see time from two perspectives, one in which it passes fast and another in which it passes slower, and the more focused you are on time being too fast, the easier for you it will be to deal with the “long period of time” that you need to wait until you meet your girlfriend again.

My advice:

Involve yourself in various activities that imply this principle! These could be activities like:

–          Taking some courses and preparing for an exam that’s coming very soon. Thus you have to study a lot and it feels like there’s not enough time to prepare.

–          Starting a project that needs to be finished very soon. It could a personal, professional or educational project.

A few examples: reading a book until a given date, writing a book until a given date, writing a university thesis, passing a certain level of a video game, creating a website, loosing x number of pounds until a given date, Organizing an upcoming event etc.

To give you a personal example: I’ve set myself the goal of launching this website, creating valuable content, promoting it, and creating an amazing video training, for men in a long distance relationship on how to keep their girlfriends madly attracted…and all this until the next time I visit her. And for the past 2 months I’ve been feeling like time is passing so fast and I have done so little yet.

When I think that there are only a few more weeks until I visit her, I start to feel nervous about the fact that “It’s so little time, and I have to do so many stuff!” Do I still miss her and want to see her as soon as possible? Yes, I do. But that’s not my focus right now, so I don’t suffer as much because of it.

2. Doing something pleasant, but time limited.

The second situation where time feels “too fast” is when we’re spending it in a pleasant manner and there’s a limited time for it.

  • Does time feel like flying to fast when you visit your significant other for two weeks?
  • Or does it feel like going too fast when you have a short, one week holiday from school?
  • Or do you feel like weekends pass too fast? And you have to get back to work or to school too soon?

Well, I bet that you said yes to all these questions.

So how do you use this idea to make your long waiting period seem shorter? …Easy!

You do that by adding to your life “time periods” when you engage yourself in fun and pleasant activities, which are also time limited.

In my experience some examples of these cases would be:

  •        Taking a holiday from my job for a few days, and just chilling home or with friends all this time. (needless to say that I      wish these days were 10 times slower)
  •        Having a trip somewhere for a week.
  •        Getting a limited subscription to a massage center, swimming pool, sauna etc.

Anything that means escaping something unpleasant from your life and doing something pleasant instead, will make time feel like passing MUCH faster than normal.

3. Having a busy life.

Busy people always complain that 24 hours in a day are not enough for them. And it’s true, sometimes I wish I had two human clones to put them to work alongside me to get all my tasks done in time.

So having a busy life will make you feel like time passes faster.

Experts say that as a corollary, a period of doing nothing appears longer than an equally long period when one is doing something. And that’s because time seems longer only when we notice it. And when we are busy doing stuff, our mind is focused on something else, other than the passing of time.

So my advice:

–          Join a gym

–          Find a hobby

–          Follow a passion

–          Join a volunteering organization like AIESEC (if you’re a student)

–          Practice sports

–          Study more

–          Get a job

–          Hang out with friends

–          Read a book

–          Etc.

Do stuff in your life and keep yourself busy! You’ll be more productive, and time will pass so fast that one day you’ll be woken up in the airplane by a sexy stewardess asking you “would you like to drink something sir?” (unless you travel with Ryanair)

4. Dividing time into smaller intervals.

Ohh, that’s a great one too! I use this technique to take my mind off the whole x months period of time and focus it on a shorter period of time.

What I mean by that is taking let’s say a period of 6 moths and dividing it into a few shorter intervals.

As a result me and my girlfriend would not focus so much on the 6 months period, but on the upcoming event that’s happening in a few weeks or a month.

The idea is to find a few important events to look forward to, that happen before these 6 months, so that you can focus your patience and eagerness onto these events.

These could be events like a birthday (mine or hers), receiving a package that she sent me, getting a letter from her, getting a job application answer, passing an exam successfully, graduating, having a holiday etc.

Any event that is important to me, or to both of us, that we can’t wait for it to happen and makes us focus our patience on it.

Another way I like to use this technique is to find a specific date in between these 6 months, that when passing this date will make me feel “like there’s just so little that’s remaining!”

For example when there’s still 3 months to wait, I’d tell her “Sweetie, after these first two months pass, I’ll feel like I’m already back home close to you!” This way we’re both focusing on the first two months passing first, and seeing the last third month as just another little “bit”.

5. Sleeping more.

Am I kidding? Yes and No! Sleeping makes us unconscious to some degree of the passing of time. (we all know that)

I have regularly found myself sleeping a lot more in the last week before visiting her, just because I’d feel like time passed faster and I just couldn’t consciously wait more.

So, am I kidding with this suggestion?…I don’t know, maybe not…you decide!

6. Expecting time to pass faster.

My last suggestion might not seem as effective as all the others mentioned before, but it’s actually the one thing that makes all the other ones much more effective.

It’s something that I like to call “time optimism”!

And this means that no matter how long you have to wait before you meet your girlfriend again, you want to believe that this period will just fly away unnoticed and you’ll find yourself making love to her very soon. And the most important part – you have to inspire her to believe the same.

Therefore when I hear her telling me how much she misses me and how much she wants to feel my body close to hers, I become a “time optimist” and tell her “soon we’re gonna see each other again baby, just a little bit more!


All these ideas are great ways to “manipulate” your time perception. And what makes them work wonders is the fact that they manage to get your mind focused on something else, other than the “slow” passing of time. You are either thinking about how fast is time passing, or not thinking about time at all – and that’s what makes it appear shorter.

As the saying goes:

Time seems to appear longer only when one notices it.

So, to make a short recap:

You can make time appear shorter by:

1.       Involving yourself in time limited activities.
2.      Doing something pleasant, but time limited.
3.      Having a busy life.
4.      Dividing time into smaller intervals.
5.      Sleeping more.
6.      Being a “time optimist”.

Use these suggestions, and make 3 months feel like 3 weeks, 6 months feel like 3 months and a year feel like….(well make sure to visit her more often)

Do you have any other suggestions? Make sure to post your comment below!

About Livius Besski

After knowing nothing about love and getting his heart broken over and over again, Livius has decided to figure this topic out. And for the past 10 years he has discovered the counter-intuitive way love works, has created a system for overcoming neediness (which is holding most guys back) and is now sharing all of his practical advice here on the site.


  1. Beverly says:

    Thanks for your great article about time perception! Not many people have written about this specific topic! Making time go faster until I see my other half is the biggest of my problems- handling the perception of the several weeks that lie ahead of me before I see him stresses me out to no end. I also find that the first month is infinitely hard. But it gradually gets better from there. The last month before I see him is exciting and the fastest (not as fast as how time goes when I’m with him). Dividing the time into smaller intervals and time optimism would be at the top of my list, since these are the ones I use the most. Spending months apart can be hard and really frustrating; mainly due to the AWFULLY HUGE amount of time in between visits. Apart from missing him, feeling lonely, etc, managing time is the biggest of my worries. Such articles do help me keep up my hope- roughly 3 months to go. Thanks for the share!

  2. I 100% agree to this article. I am in a long distance relationship with my husband right now. He’s all the way in the UK and im working here in the Philippines- it gets really tough at times, especially when the world comes crumbling down on yah with work related problems and other stuff -when all you think about is a hug and a kiss from the love of your life (but hes not there). What we’ve been doing is to set facetime dates/skype dates not too often -like once or twice a week. We often communicate through facebook (offline messages) daily. That way,our skype/facetime dates tend to be more meaningful -since we look forward to the weekends to see each other. We both try not to count the dates, because the more you think about it..the more it lengthens the time. My advice is to plan the things that you want to do together or with each other by the time you meet- make a timeline it helps!


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