Distance Brings Closer

Contrary to the popular belief that distance breaks hearths, I think that distance itself does actually the opposite of destroying a relationship and actually brings a couple closer.

What ruins couples in a long distance relationships most of the times is not the distance itself,  but the inability of the partners to deal with usual relationship issues like arguments, too much jealousy, poor communication, routine, or simply because the attraction for one of the partners has disappeared.

Yes, distance can amplify the usual struggle and it also brings in the missing for each other, the physical longing, and the confusion about a future together and so on, and only because of these struggles, the ones that succeed to overcome them become much closer.

I believe that distance brings closer couples that actually want a relationship to work. We humans tend to value more the things that we put some effort into. And when we decide to make a long distance relationship work and we fight for it with all our hearths, it then becomes so much more valuable to us.

Another interesting factor is that we tend to want more what we can’t have right now. It’s common knowledge that we see the things that we want, but don’t have, as more valuable than they actually are. And when our partner is far away and we CAN’T have her right now, it makes us want her so much more.

And lastly, in my view, a big part of getting closer is the constant communication that we long distance lovers have. It teaches us to be open, express ourselves and solve our issues through communication.

Once, my girlfriend said to me: “It’s crazy, but I think that if we would’ve continued our relationship being here together, we would’ve probably separated long time ago!” What she meant was that we learned to communicate better while being apart.

To conclude, what I want you to remain with after reading this short article is that we must appreciate our long distance relationship, because it’s not a curse, an intermediary time we have to bear, or a pain in the ass, but a real relationship and it should be treated as such, and enjoyed.

I truly believe that distance is actually a blessing, a gift for our relationships to bring our hearths closer, and make them grow stronger, if that’s what we truly want.

That’s why I encourage you to write down below your long distance relationship story – if and even if it doesn’t support this idea. Let’s see some real evidence and make a discussion out of it.

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About Livius Besski

After knowing nothing about love and getting his heart broken over and over again, Livius has decided to figure this topic out. And for the past 10 years he has discovered the counter-intuitive way love works, has created a system for overcoming neediness (which is holding most guys back) and is now sharing all of his practical advice here on the site.


  1. brandon says:

    Me and my long distance girlfriend have been together for two years now. We met online, and between our age and economic situations have unfortunately never actually been together in person. And while we’ve had plenty, and god do i mean plenty, of problems we’ve had to overcome the distance has actually created the greatest relationship either of us has ever had. But i do have to say that while no relationship, either ldr or proximal, should ever be felt as a pain in the ass, long distance is far more challenging, i.e. insecurity/anxiety over your partners previous lovers can for the first time become a real issue when you cant do all those same things with them, those challenges are what prompts us to invest more time and effort into the relationship. So, even though its been a hard road, i have an amazing girlfriend closer to me than anyone iv ever known and the distance is going to be closed in just a few more months. More than worth the struggle.

  2. Kelz says:

    Me and my Husband have been in a long distance relationship for two years. My Husband lives in England while I live in America. He has two children from a past relationship and I have two children from a past relationship as well. We met two years ago when he came over to visit my step father for a vacation his first time in America he had just recently split up with his childrens mother and I had just gone through a long separation with my ex husband. When we met we instantly connected. We where to people at the same place in our lives at the same time. The more we got to know each other the more we connected. we would stay up all night talking about our lives and the things we had been through and what we wanted to achieve. Before we knew it two weeks had flown by and he had to leave to go back home. I never felt more disconnected I felt like I had lost my best friend. I had received a few phone calls from him and we talked. A few weeks later he walked back through the front door for a surprise visit I had no clue he was coming. This time he decided to stay for three months needless to say before the three months was up we had fallin in love. But of course he had to go back home as he would always have to do but we now video call each other over the internet and we still do everyday when he gets off work so we can at least see each other while we talk. We have plans for me and my children to move to England to untie our family. We always tell each other that if we can make it through this we can make it through anything. We have faced many things together and there have been times where we thought talking things out wouldn’t be enough.There have also been times when jealousy tried its best to pull us apart. we still see each other every few months but only for two weeks. When he is away I miss feeling him next to me or just knowing that If I decided to kiss him I could. long distance relationships do break your heart. Missing the person that you love everyday waking up without having them next to you no matter how bad you want them to be there hurts. But talking and loving each other for more then just a physical relationship does make you closer. Fighting to be able to be together does make your relationship worth so much more. You learn to appreciate the small things like the way he snores at night or when he leaves the toilet seat up. You learn to talk through your problems. And when you are together you know that they are worth the fight. We are now expecting our first child together and our marriage is strong as ever even though we are still apart.

  3. blancarosa21@hotmail.com says:

    I have a long distance relationship, I live in Mexico and he lives in Germany. We met while I was living in Croatia. For professional and family reasons I had to come back to Mexico. It was the hardest decision I’ve made so far. I really wanted to stay, he even asked me to, but i had no job opportunity, and I was not going to be able to support him, and I didn’t want to leave all the pressure on him.
    He has been really supportive, he said “a year o few months a part was nothing to 87 years living together later on” I feel blessed for that. Since for guys probably a LDR is not that attractive, and a guy like him, charismatic and outgoing, being surrounded physically by people is what attracts anyone more. We have handled so far good. I believe that Long distance relationships can be enjoyed and loved as much any other relationship. I just sometimes find myself scared, I don’t know how long would he handle, would he forget how is it to be actually together or something. But most of the time I feel happy, I found a job that in the future will aloud me to go back to Germany and be able to stay there and support each other. I thank God for that. But somedays I wanna drop everything and just go back, but dont have the money to do that. I have faith in this relationship, and even if someday I wish i could turn around and look at him next to me, I hope we will be able to enjoy this time, for the rest to come 🙂 thank you for sharing your opinion.