The Best Long Distance Sex Toys To Enhance Your Relationship

by Lindsay & Grayson | Last Updated: June 17, 2020
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As long distance couples, we naturally focus most of our energy on emotional intimacy. Since we can’t physically be together as often as we would like, we spend most of our time building a deep connection through communication.

However, physical intimacy is just as important as emotional intimacy in a relationship. But because of the distance, it doesn’t get the attention that it needs.

We strongly believe that long distance sex toys are the best way to create and maintain physical intimacy when you can’t be together.

How do long distance sex toys work?

Also called teledildonics, long distance sex toys use Bluetooth and smartphone applications to communicate with each other over the internet. The connected devices utilise haptic feedback technology so that each device can be controlled by the movements of the other.

This “remote sex” helps to create an environment where you and your partner are pleasuring each other, rather than pleasuring yourselves.

It is worth noting that not all couples sex toys are created equal. That’s why we have put together a list of the best long distance sex toys to enhance your relationship.

We have also included options for the LGBTQ+ community, and are proud to support companies with an inclusive vision.

Sex Toys For Long Distance Relationships

Nora & Max 2 by Lovense

Max 2 & Nora by Lovense

Lovense is at the top of the pack with Nora & Max 2, which connect via Bluetooth and the Lovense Remote App.

Each toy can be controlled by the other or you can use the remote control features within their application. There is also the ability to record sessions to replay the same moves and audio in the future, which is perfect for couples who live in vastly different time zones.

One area that Lovense sets themselves apart from other companies is that their applications are also compatible with PC and Mac computers. Rather than just iOS and Android devices.

How Max 2 and Nora Interact

Moving the Max 2 up and down activates the rotating head on the Nora. Faster strokes with Max 2 increase Nora’s rotation speed. Likewise, the air pumper in Max 2 responds to the speed that Nora moves, with the intensity of contractions responding to the speed of Nora.

Max 2 Battery Life & Charging

  • Usage time: 3.5 hours
  • Charge time: 2 hours

Nora Battery Life & Charging

  • Usage time: 2 hours
  • Charge time: 2.5 hours

Pearl 2 & Onyx+ by Kiiroo

Onyx+ & Pearl 2 by Kiiroo

The Pearl 2 & Onyx+ are Kiiroo’s most popular combination for long distance couples that use the FeelConnect application and platform.

Pearl 2 is a G-spot vibrator equipped with touch-sensitive technology, which uses sensors to adjusts the intensity and speed of vibrations based on amount of pressure being applied. For example: More pressure will generate more intense vibrations, while less pressure will decrease the intensity.

Kiiroo recently launched the third-generation Onyx+, which can reach up to a whopping 140 strokes per minute. The rotating motor that produces the up and down movements to simulate intercourse has also gone through some major improvements.

How Pearl 2 and Onyx+ Interact

When inserting the Pearl 2, the Onyx+ contracts and strokes to match the speed. Moving it in and out faster will increase the intensity of stroking and contractions. Meanwhile, a touchpad on Onyx+ can control the speed and type of vibrations felt when using the Pearl 2.

Onyx+ Battery Life & Charging

  • Usage time: 1 hour
  • Charge time: 4 hours

Pearl 2 Battery Life & Charging

  • Usage time: 1 hour
  • Charge time: 2 hours

Cliona & TITAN by Kiiroo

Cliona & TITAN by Kiiroo

The team at Kiiroo knows that everyone has different preferences when it comes to stimulation. The Cliona & TITAN couples set is a great example of this.

Cliona was designed for women who prefer clitoral stimulation over vaginal stimulation. It’s also waterproof making it a perfect option for use in the bath or shower.

Kiiroo created the TITAN For men who prefer a manual stroking sensation over an automatic one. They included a real-feel sleeve along with nine bullet vibrators strategically placed to enhance the overall experience.

How Cliona and Titan Interact

The Titan has three touch-sensitive pads to control the Cliona’s vibrations. Each pad will increase or decrease the speed and intensity being felt. While rubbing or inserting the Cliona, the Titan’s bullet vibrators will match the movements and speed. How deep the Cliona is inserted and how much pressure is used will determine which bullet vibrators in the Titan are activated and the intensity of their vibrations.

Titan Battery Life & Charging

  • Usage time: 30-40 minutes
  • Charge time: 3.5 hours

Cliona Battery Life & Charging

  • Usage time: 1 hour
  • Charge time: 2 hours

Fuse & Fleshlight Launch by Kiiroo

Fleshlight Launch & Fuse by Kiiroo

While the Fuse & Fleshlight Launch may look like the most intimidating connected sex toys. The power and technology Kiiroo has packed in these devices makes them hard to pass up.

As the name suggests, the Fleshlight Launch incorporates a Fleshlight, which could be used on it’s own for manual stimulation. But when it’s combined with the Launch, it can reach up to a crazy 180 strokes per minute. Creating an immersive and realistic experience that is unmatched.

The Fuse is a dual-motor device, which is perfect for anyone who enjoys vaginal and clitoral stimulation at the same time. What sets it apart is how it reacts to the users movements. Sliding the Fuse in and out will automatically adjust the level of vibration.

  • Slide it in: The intensity increases.
  • Slide it out: The intensity decreases.

How Fuse and Fleshlight Launch Interact

The Fleshlight Launch has a touchpad on the left hand side. When the devices are connected, it can control the rhythm and vibrations of the Fuse. The sensors within the Fuse allow it to align with the stroking mechanism within the Fleshlight Launch. E.g. When the Fuse slides in, the Launch strokes down and vice versa.

Launch Battery Life and Charging

  • Usage time: 2 hours
  • Charge time: 6-9 hours

Fuse Battery Life and Charging

  • Usage time: 1 hour
  • Charge time: 2 hours

REALM: Reina & Rey by We-Vibe

REALM: Reina & Rey by We-Vibe

Reina & Rey are two of the newest interactive sex toys on the market from the team at We-Vibe.

Reina has been specifically designed to focus on the g-spot. It includes five touch-sensitive sensors, which allows the device to adjust the intensity of vibrations based on how much pressure and speed is applied.

Rey is a power stroker, that complements Reina perfectly. The internal stroking mechanism can generate up to 140 strokes per minute and offers 4 different patterns, each increasing in intensity.

They connect to and control each other via We-Vibe’s We-Connect app. Along with remote control options, the app also features secure video, voice, and text chat so you don’t have to use multiple devices at once.

How Reina and Rey Interact

With Reina and Rey, you can select one device to be the “leader” and control both users’ experiences, or you can choose to have each device control the other. As you move Reina, Rey will mimic the same speed, movement, and intensity. As you stroke with Rey, the movements are sent to Reina to adjust the intensity of the vibrations. 

Rey Battery Life and Charging

  • Usage time: 3 hours
  • Charge time: 2 hours

Reina Battery Life and Charging

  • Usage time: 3 hours
  • Charge time: 2 hours

Long Distance Gay Sex Toys (LGBTQ+ Inclusive Options)

Nora Couples Set by Lovense

Nora Couples Sex Toys by Lovense

You can set one Nora to mimic the speed, head rotation, and vibration of the other or you can control movements through the Lovense Remote App.

Max 2 Couples Set by Lovense

Max 2 Couples Sex Toys by Lovense

As you stroke one Max 2 up and down, the other will contract at the same speed. The faster you stroke with the first Max 2, the faster the second one will contract.

Onyx+ Couples Set by Kiiroo

Onyx+ Couples Sex Toys by Kiiroo

When you connect two Onyx+ devices, you can use the touchpad on one device to control the stroke speed and vibration intensity of both devices.

Fuse & Pearl 2 Couples Sex Toys

Fuse & Pearl 2 Couples Sex Toys

With Touch-Sensitive technology built into both the Fuse and Pearl 2, increasing the depth of one device elevates the intensity of vibrations on the other. You can also adjust the vibrations with the touchpad’s on each device.

Reina Couples Set by We-Vibe

Reina Couples Sex Toys by We-Vibe

When using two Reinas, they will mirror each other’s touches, movements, and vibration intensity. Having five sensors along the device, changing the depth of one device will change the intensity of vibrations along the same sensors of the other. You can also use the We-Vibe app to change the vibration modes.

Rey Couples Set by We-Vibe

Rey Couples Sex Toys by We-Vibe

With two Rey’s, you can use the touchpad of one device to lead and control the rhythm, intensity, and stroking pattern of the other. There are four different stroking patterns to cycle through.

Our Recommended Long Distance Sex Toys

Each option we’ve gone through are packed with great tech and features that are perfect for long distance couples.

When it comes to quality, functionality and affordability we can’t go past Max 2 & Nora from the team at Lovense.

Here’s why…

Max 2 & Nora our recommended sex toys for long distance couples

10+ Years of Experience

For over ten years, Lovense has focused on connected toys for long distance intimacy. Meaning they’ve poured countless hours and funds into creating great products and applications.

Continued Development

They listen to their customers and have continued to develop Max 2 and Nora (currently at their 6th generation), creating a better user experience.

Supporting LGBTQ+ LDRs

Being able to connect two Max 2’s or two Nora’s makes them inclusive products for any gender identity, which we are proud to support.

Helpful Tips Before Buying Long Distance Sex Toys

Allergies

Check the ingredients of any sex toys or lubricants before buying them, and avoid the following common allergens and irritants:

The safest sex toy materials are silicone, glass, stainless steel, and lucite. We have made sure to only include devices on this list that are body-safe. 

Sizing Help

Men

You’ll want to know your length and girth measurements before you start shopping to avoid being disappointed when the toy arrives and doesn’t fit well. Also, look for words like stretchy, soft, or firm to get an idea of how well the toy might fit you. 

Women

When shopping for sex toys, you’ll want to pay attention to the insertable length, width, and girth measurements. Use a tape measure around your fingers or a water bottle to get a general idea of what the measurements might look like. 

Cleaning

Keeping your sex toys clean is crucial to prevent them from growing bacteria or yeast that could cause an infection the next time you use them. Each toy usually comes with its own cleaning tips, but here are a few general guidelines:

Hey! We're Lindsay(NY) & Grayson(TX), the couple behind Long Distance Lover. Since closing the distance we've made it our mission to help 1,000,000 long distance couples strengthen their relationships. When we're not behind the keyboard you'll find us on the tennis court, enjoying the beach or playing with our pup Chester!