The Future Of The Relationship?

The biggest reason why most of the long distance relationships don’t last is the confusion and the inability to see a bright future together.

It makes me sad to see people around giving up on what they love because they cannot see a bright future yet.

From where they are right now, it seems like the future is gonna be different than the one they’d like it to be, and because they cannot see all the way to achieving what they want, most of the people just give up.

Long distance relationships are a very common example of that.

What to do about it?

My advice to you is the following…

Yu don’t need to see the whole road from the beginning to the end, just to keep believing in your relationship!

It’s not always possible to see all the stairs that you’re going to climb until you reach your destination. Usually it’s possible to see the first stair and one of the last stairs….The ones in between you’ll be able to see, as you are stepping on the first stair, the second one, and so on.

A car driver when traveling in the night does not have to see the whole road, from point A to point B to reach his destination.

It can arrive at its destination only by seeing the next 100 meters lighten by the front lights.

Same in a long distance relationship, don’t be discouraged by the fact that you cannot see a near closing the distance opportunity.

It will come eventually, as you go on with your life….You never know when a great idea will come to you mind or an unexpected opportunity will pop up.

In my life I always get amazed at how many times I thought that I’ll see my girlfriend only six months later or more (not even talking about knowing when we’ll finally close the distance).

And I’d be amazed at how many times some new ideas or opportunities would come my way, and we’d end up seeing each other much sooner than we expected. It happens 80% of the time.

So I really insist that you never give up, just because you’ll have to see each other too late, or you cannot picture yet a “normal” future together. It will come, just hang on and make your relationship work.

Keep your girl attracted; make her enjoy the relationship with you and the future will open up its opportunities when you’ll both be ready for them.


Last thoughts

So, if you are the one that really believes in the relationships, but your girlfriend is kind of unsure about it, then send her a copy of this article, or even better, explain her what I have just explained to you.

Let her know that it’s okay to not know what the future will be, as long as you know that you want to be together sometime and love each other enough to wait for it, then it’s gonna be fine.

You need to know the next time you will meet again, (the first stair) and the fact that you want to close the distance sometime and live happily ever after (the last stair), and that’s enough.

All that’s in between those two, are just details, they are going to be revealed to you when the time is right, just keep believing and don’t give up.

So this was more of an inspirational article. I hope it did the job and got you a bit inspired the same as it kept me inspired for 7 years now.

PS: Let me know that you think of it, by leaving a comment below.

With love and respect,

Besski Livius

About Livius Besski

After knowing nothing about love and getting his heart broken over and over again, Livius has decided to figure this topic out. And for the past 10 years he has discovered the counter-intuitive way love works, has created a system for overcoming neediness (which is holding most guys back) and is now sharing all of his practical advice here on the site.


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